I’ve been thinking a lot about the current events in the world. Watching biblical prophecy come to fruition, seeing the need to seek God more than ever. I never thought I’d witness what’s going on, let alone be in the middle of raising kids while these events are unfolding. And it’s made me realize how important it is to be so saturated in pursuing God wholeheartedly. I grew up in church and have never known a life apart from Him. Granted, my life and its circumstances have grown me and deepened my faith more than I ever expected, but He’s always been what I lean on when things around me are going crazy. All of this has also made me realize that we’re in a time that being a lukewarm Christian just won’t suffice. He needs people on fire for Him, a passion to serve Him and others, a longing to hear from Him. Seeking His heart and desires for us that carry into our daily lives and not just a weekly meeting with other believers.
I came across a term years ago that I’d not heard until that point, Kingdom partner. I loved the way it sounded, so powerful and warrior-esque. The image in my mind was husband and wife fighting evil, next to each other, looking to God, a true partnership. It’s not something I’d experienced, but I wanted to. My heart’s desire to serve God began as a small girl when my mom passed. My grandma was the first person to take me to church, and we went regularly when she became my caregiver. I remember hearing her talk about God to others, she explained how she believed things happen for a reason, and that we were to serve Him in whatever way we were called to. I’ve known since I was around 5 years old that I was different from my peers. Part of that I’m sure is early childhood trauma and an otherwise “abnormal” life than what they’d experienced. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that most people are comfortable going to church on Sundays, living a “normal” or comfortable life. I completely get it because I’ve been known to do so myself. It’s difficult when you’re working, raising babies, etc. But lately I feel so much more impassioned and feeling that we need to rise up and be the warriors we were called to be. Surrendering our plans, seeking His heart, His will for our lives. To focus on how we can fiercely defend the innocent, our children, and raise the next generation to be God fearing.
I believe a lot of people are unaware of the spiritual warfare going on, even within the church. Now is not the time to shrink back and stay quiet, satan is constantly prowling around trying to dismantle what God has created. The family unit especially, and now more than ever, families have to stand against it. Which brings me to the point of having a kingdom partner. I don’t know the biblical accuracy, my research was brief, but I’ve heard it said that the only mention the Bible makes in regards to a spouse is finding someone you’d want to go to war with. Such a powerful image, it matched perfectly the image I had of “kingdom partner”, so I assume there’s an intentional relevance. I mentioned in my last post that I’d met someone who I wholeheartedly know God brought to me in His perfect timing to help me through this new chapter of my life. I’ve come to realize that he is my kingdom partner, the one I’d prayed for since I was a little girl, and more specifically since I became single. A man who would serve God with me, lead me, our family, love Him more than me and someone I could go to war with. I don’t understand why God allows what He does, but I’ve come to trust Him more than anyone or anything, I take comfort in knowing that He has a beautiful plan unfolding even when I can’t see it.
This man God has sent me is the kindest, gentlest, most incredible and humble soul I’ve ever met. He has 2 sons whom I’ve come to love as my own, and I absolutely love being a part of their lives. I knew from the very first time we talked that he was different, but I wasn’t actively looking to date or get into a relationship so I didn’t give it much thought. I realized we had a lot in common, similar life stories and background, and I was excited to meet someone whom I could really relate to. The relatability and similarities helped us connect on a deeper level, and I realized very quickly something felt different. But again, I didn’t give it too much thought because I was just coming to a point of being content on my own and independent. One thing that I’ve learned most about God is His ways are not mine, His timing is not mine, and He moves in His own ways-even, and especially, if it seems crazy to the human mind and comprehension. In fact, I can tell you from my own life’s experiences, if it’s logical, reasonable, can be explained or tied up in a perfect little bow of, “yeah, that makes sense”, it’s 99.99999% not from God. For whatever reason, He operates in ways that we can’t understand or make sense of. To be honest, it’s kind of fun, and funny, to witness. I also love surprises so watching Him work is extra exciting to me.
To add my previous point, the Bible doesn’t give a lot of information for dating, the length of time one “should date” before marriage, or really anything of the sort. Something I actually never considered or was aware of until my recent singledom. So, because of that, because I’ve been married since I was 17, this has been a rather interesting time for me. I know in the depths of my heart I wasn’t meant to be single, having a partner and family is the most important thing to me. I also realized there was some healing that needed to take place, my caretaker desires and abilities stemmed from unmet needs as a child-and being a people-pleaser. Spending 3 years alone, but not really wanting to pursue dating, nor being in the position to, taught me how to take care of myself. Being a mom or someone’s wife was all I’d known, and I knew God was using that time to grow me. Teaching me my worth and value as the person He created and had a plan for, not just an identity from my position in the world.
Being where I am in my journey, taking everything I know into consideration; applying what I know, factoring in the countless prayers and wholehearted submission to God, I feel like I’m in the best place I’ve ever been. Sure, I have some things I’m still working on and healing from, but overall I feel incredibly content and settled within myself. Which is actually a very foreign feeling for me, so I’m trying to absorb every moment I can. And to be transparent and vulnerable, I want to mention that I just found out I have breast cancer. A ductal tumor that I’ll begin treatment for soon, but I see how God brought me the support I needed to get through this new journey. I have family that are supportive of course, which I’m incredibly grateful for. But God knows me and my needs, and I can’t imagine having to go through this without a partner by my side.
Having said all that, and going back to having a kingdom partner, I believe everything I’ve been through has led me to this point. To be so rooted in my faith, so dependent on God and seeking His will, so at peace with where He leads me. Feeling confident in my decision making, knowing in my heart it’s the path I’m meant to be on. And with this man by my side, I know without a shadow of a doubt he’s the one I’m meant to walk beside the rest of my days, go to war with, the one God Himself hand-picked to be my kingdom partner. It’s…I haven’t discovered the word that quite fits the definition of how I feel about it. But it’s peaceful beyond understanding, something I couldn’t have done on my own. Literally an answer to many, many tear filled prayers. It hasn’t been very long in terms of how we measure time, but we’ve both had so many confirmations that we’d be fools to not recognize it for what it is. His hand at work, His heart for us and a great way to bring Him glory.
To find someone who loves with a depth I’ve never experienced, who sees me in a way I’ve never been seen, and who cares for me in a way no one ever has can only be explained through divine ordination. For me, he is God’s love for me made visible, it’s incredible. I can’t recall ever feeling so deeply that I was truly at the center of God’s will for my life. I didn’t search for him, I didn’t make an attempt to find someone, I was perfectly content to be single for the rest of my life. I say all the time that I’m grateful God knows what we need, even if it doesn’t align with what we want or think we need. My most favorite aspect of being a follower of Christ is knowing that He works all things together for His good, His glory. I see with great clarity the plans He has for he and I, the ways He’ll use us to further His kingdom, the purpose in which He brought us together. It’s exciting, yet brings contentment and peace to my heart when I envision the things we’ll do with the tools He’s equipped us with, to serve and glorify Him. To have someone by my side who has the same desires as me, to not be satisfied with just a Sunday church service, but rather a partner who’s just as passionate about his calling and will literally go to war with me is the culmination of 40 plus years of prayer and submission to Him, waiting for His timing.
All I’ve ever wanted was to have a life only God can take credit for, to show people He is real and desires a relationship with us. To live a peaceful life, raise babies and watch them have babies of their own. To build a legacy for Him, growing a family that honors and glorifies Him. For the first time in my life I can see those things coming to fruition. All the hard work, pain, suffering, heartache, abuse and loss of friendships is a thousand percent worth it for me. If I had to do that another hundred times so that my kids wouldn’t have to endure it once, or live a life of agony to have the man I have now, I would in a heartbeat! And I don’t say that lightly, I’ve been through some pretty intense pain. But I feel that to the depths of my soul. Every moment was worth it because it led me to the greatest chapter of my life. The one where I no longer struggle and fight, but where I get a front row seat to the amazing things God has planned for my kids, the boys I consider my own, and my kingdom partner and I!
**Because 9 times out of 10 I have a song that resonates so deeply, this post is appropriately titled “Egypt” because of the song by Cory Asbury. The lyrics fit the theme of this post and what I’ve watched God do in my life over the past 3 years.
“You stepped into my Egypt, you took me by the hand. You marched me out in freedom, into the Promised Land. And now I will not forget you God, I’ll sing of all you’ve done, death is swallowed up forever, by the fury of your love”. The first time I heard this song was live at church, and not surprisingly, it moved me to tears because of its relevance. Music is, has, and will always be my favorite form of artistry. Its ability to invoke such deep emotion, resonate within my soul, and be the string of words I couldn’t articulate myself will never cease to amaze me. I’ll link the song so you can listen for yourself. I pray it speaks to you the way it does me!
https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=dUbpSpDA2so&feature=shared